I have mentioned before that I am married to a wonderful man. He is someone I call my beautiful beloved... unless I am out of my center - then I can call him all sorts of names - and some of them none too flattering.
The same goes for all the other beautiful people in this world. The truth is - when I am grumpy - I see the world through my grumpy glasses - and then - you are all just horrid things that annoy me. Well - let's take that truth deeper - if I am the grumpy one wearing grumpy glasses - then I am the one filled with horribleness and I am seeing my own internal workings reflected back at me... and you are all just mirrors... a reflective surface that I am projecting my stuff onto. Thank you for bearing the brunt of my grump!
I am not saying that there are not truly horrid things out there in the world - there are. There are people out there that are so out of their center - and who have forgotten who they truly are - and are being that horribleness they feel inside all over. But that is the key - they are not being present to their true self - they are not being centered in their beautiful spirit being. If we were truly centered in our spirit self - we could not actually do those horrible things to others.
Bringing this back to myself... I have noticed that when I am telling myself old stories and replaying bad experiences from my past - over and over in my head - then I seem to attract the moodiness in others... and my experience of them - and of myself - is a reply of that old story in some way.
I have also noticed that when I am in my body as a more spiritual being - more aware of my full self - then I seem to tell myself good things in my head - and then - the people around me seem to reflect that - and I experience more of their beautiful selves. So the key seems to be present.
What does being present mean? For me - its being in the moment. Being aware of all that is around me in an awakened way - in this state - life is magical. Its beautiful. Its alive. I am aware that I am a spiritual being having a physical experience. I can feel the energy of this. I can feel the life force in all that is around me. My mind is a good place to be. I am aware of my thinking and I am conscious of what I choose to think and dwell on - knowing that its a creative magnetic force that draws more of what I dwell on to me.
My dearest beloved husband is often at the receiving end of my thought experiments. Thank you dear one. I noticed once - that as I lay in bed thinking negative thoughts - my hubby rolled over away from me - and he was fast asleep. I did not think much of this at the time.. but - then I started to think of something really quite beautiful and suddenly he rolled back over towards me. I wondered if this was just coincidence, so being the curious being that I am - I consciously shifted my thoughts to negative again - not of him - just something negative... and he rolled again... Poor chap - I continued with switching thoughts in random combinations for some time - and he responded to each positive and negative with a roll towards and away from me. I did repeat this experiment over a few nights just to check if this was the case every time... it was. This showed me - to my mind anyway - that there was definitely some form of force at work here. So take this deeper - if I am projecting something negative towards life - then life responds by reflecting that negativity back at me (in this case one could think of it as a form of rejection)- and then if I am projecting something positive towards life - then life responds in a positive way back to me (Acceptance).
So - am I subconsciously impacting on all those around me with my own thoughts? Does this mean I should try and think about those people I am interacting with in a higher way, or just think more positive thoughts in general? Will this impact on how I experience them and life in general in the future? You will have to try this out for yourself to figure it out - but for me - I can say that yes - this is very true. When I expect the worst from someone - I get it - one way or another. If I am in a downer mood - then all sorts of things go wrong for me.
Likewise - when I hold a positive thought towards someone - or just any positive thought if I struggle to think of them in a positive way - then at best - I get a neutral reaction from them, or they just are not on my radar - or... I get something positive... either way - win win... for them and for me.
Now - they do have free will and free choice - so this is not a case of mind manipulating them to give me what I want. What I find is that the situation changes to a more positive one for the highest good of all. That phrase - "Highest good for all" - is the outcome I try to hold in mind - and no - I am no saint and far from perfect - so this is not my everyday always experience.... this is just something I strive for... WHEN I REMEMBER TO DO SO!!! Its got to be a conscious act and eventually - I believe - with enough practice - will become more of a habit. Lets face it - we became negative through practice - so fair enough - it may well take some practice to become more positive.