Today I have been reminded how important our frame of mind is when we tackle a task. If I am having to face a task - or so something - that I am not that impressed about- how I go about it and my mind set is all important. If I am grumpy and irritated - I have already closed my mind to the task - and my creative juices are shut down. The task becomes very difficult and takes so much time. I get all irritated - more so than when I started - and then end up all bitter and twisted inside and the task - when done...if done.. is a mess - or no where near as effectively done as it could have been. Inspired creativity does not come with a closed mind. Solutions do not present themselves to a closed door - which is what a closed mind is. In this blocked and stuck state - everything is an uphill battle. So what to do?? Do I really need to do this task? If no - then just toss the thing and get on with life and let go of it. If yes... then - a change of mind or mood is needed - as blocked and irritated results in a mess. So... step one is to get rid of the fizz.... express it - vent your frustration - in whatever way is suitable for your surroundings.... If I am in a public place - I often make an excuse to go to the loo - I am left in peace there- and there - I vent.. ok - not out loud... but I can pull faces - rip up loo paper... flush it all away. If I am at home and I can get some privacy - then I can scream in a pillow - kick a pillow... hit a pillow etc... rip up paper ( I love doing that)... but get the fizz out... sometimes I just get the irritated me to write it all out - about how stupid this is and how annoying it is and how is sucks etc... this is just that part of myself who has a right to feel the way it feels... give it the space to vent... Then... the calmer me has space and can come in and take over... this is a more adult functional self. This me can explain to the rest of me how to get the job done in the most cost effective way as regards time and energy...can explain the benefits of getting it done and rationalise it. Then.. time to tap into the me who can do it and who has the solutions - the super me!! You can invent any name you like for this you... its the one who can tap into creative energy and solutions - who can get highly functional and just get the job done!! I close my eyes - and I take a deep breath - letting go of any remaining frustrations.... I call on all the Beings of the Universe who are qualified to help me.... and I get really creative here. I am not beyond calling in Einstein when helping my daughter with maths!!! It really does not matter who you call in - just get creative and have fun with this - it brings a higher level of energy in.... and shifts the mood. It can even become .... God forbid... fun!!!!!! In fact -the more fun you can have with it - the higher the creative juices will flow - the better the mood and energy will be and the faster and more efficient you will do the task!! I connect to the highest aspect of myself... I visualise a column of light coming over me and infusing me with energy and solutions.... and then I breathe into it - filling myself up. I am tapping into the me who can and the me who already has done this task.... an then I move aside and let this me get on with it. Then... once done... I reward myself!!!! It does not matter how big or small the reward is - but it does matter to have a reward. Its a wonderful celebration of getting the job done!!! YEAH!! So - next time you are faced with a reluctant aspect of yourself having to do something that you are not that impressed with - or even struggling with - try this method and see how you go...it really works for me. Much love Arleen
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There is so much talk about unconditional love - and love being the way... that is all very well - but how on earth do we apply that to our daily lives??? How do we learn to love that person who is behaving like an out and out creep? How to we learn to love the brat who is having a full out temper tantrum at the age of 35? How do we love the selfish ### who is behaving like a prima donna?? This can all feel so challenging? What about people who are supposed to be high soul connections etc?? How do we love them if they are behaving like a sergeant magor and criticizing our every move? When I am faced with these situations - there is a part of me that just wants to say - no way - its all to hard - love be damned!! Welcome to humanity!!! Life here is not about perfection...or rather - its about loving the imperfection we are. Love starts at home - with me. I have to learn to love myself in all my perfect imperfection first. When I can love and accept myself in all my phases - then ...I can attract the love and acceptance of others, if they are able to express it... or rather - attract people into my life who can. But - what about those who are not there yet? I know I am still not there yet? So what? If I love and accept myself - their opinion of me does not matter - as I am then able to separate the egoistic human being who is struggling with all this love stuff and this messy place called Earth(Just like I am)- with the spiritual aspect of that person - who is perfect.. who is love and light - but just not perhaps expressing it right now. There is a wonderful phrase - and I forget who it comes from - but it goes like this "What others think of me is none of my business". Get out of other people's heads - its like a crazy dump heap in there sometimes... there are some great places and there are also some toxic wastelands.. yikes.. get out of there!!! Just stop and think for a moment - what is it like in your own head?? Mine is like a crazy theme park - there are wild rides and beautiful parks, and swamps and electrical storms... there is no way I want someone else running around in there.. its enough just being in there myself... so show some respect and get out of other people's heads - that is a private place! We are not on this planet to please others... its impossible anyway... as you never know which one you are trying to please... the ego.. their soul?? The soul is always pleased with you - it loves you - as you are part of it and are one... so this unconditional love things - its a spiritual thing... we aim for it where we can - but please know - the realm of the spiritual world is where there are no conditions. Here on earth - we have messy love, and crazy love, and wild love, and yukky love, and muddy love, and sunny love... and all other possible loves that you can imagine - as here we express and explore and learn. In the spiritual world - we know we are all one and we feel it and we see it... we are without the ego stuff there... and that is where pure unconditional love exists in all its beauty. This does not mean we cannot glimpse it or experience it here - we do - when we remember who we are - and when the other remembers who they are... wow - sometimes we even get to remember this together and really see the soul in each other - and then - we really feel that beautiful connection of unconditional love. But - we both have to be in the right frame of mind and connected to spirit to get there and experience this at the same time. So yes - its absolutely possible...but often - just not all the time. But how to accept another in their egoistic selves - and what about accepting ourselves when we are too - and allowing the love to flow - while on delightfully messy earth??? Well - there are saints and ascended masters walking around and they have no problem with this. Personally though - I am not there yet - I am still having a ball in being this human thing doing and living human experiences on earth - and I am enjoying it too. I have all the time in the world to get to pure ascendancy - so until I do - I am not going to put pressure on myself and expect myself to be where I am not... So - let's look at anatomy to get the answer..... We have these lovely things called chakras - and they connect to the endocrine glands of the physical body as the spiritual psychical interface. The heart chakra - the one that is all about love - is connected to the thymus gland. The thymus glad is the one that governs the immune system... the immune system is all about protection. So - this tells me that to really love on this lovely messy delightful place called Earth - we need to feel safe. I cannot love when I feel threatened. I immediately then hop into my base chakra of adrenal glands which is all about fight or flight... so safety is required. Safety talks to me about boundaries and common sense. If I really want to love a lion - I must respect it for being a lion (or be an ascended master - which I am currently not). I need to allow the animal to be what it is and allow for its natural instinctive behavior... its a lion and hence I could be potential dinner - so to really enjoy the lion and love it - I need to keep as safe distance from it while it is being lion. So the same with humans that have a lion ego expression... for example. Love and respect them for who they are knowing that they are currently expressing a predator existence and hence will be looking for victims - so some distance - or boundaries - will be required. Using images of animals helps me - and yes - this will be my projection - as they are just being themselves... and I am in my stuff too. But - if I am not feeling that safe around them then I need to create some distance until I do. Personally - in my home - I prefer to live without drugs, alcohol or smoking. Technically speaking - there is nothing wrong with these things - but I just prefer to live in a space without them - so this becomes a boundary for me. Its not wrong that others like to have these things in their lives...and so - in their space its perfectly ok for them to be experiencing these things. It will be wrong for them if they feel it is wrong - and right for them if they feel it is right. Its their world and we each create our own reality in it. What someone else puts in their mind or body is their business. Yeah - easier said than done - but really - this is what it is about... and if we apply boundaries and protection... between their world experience and ours - then we all feel much better about it. So - in theory - we learn to love and respect each other as spiritual beings having an earthly experience... so I can reach out and connect to the soul of this person in a drug world (for example)... and love them there, and send love and connect there... as its a safe place to do so.... while I keep my distance and boundaries in place here on earth. They can live in their bubble and I can live in mine. If I go to their home bubble - then I have to accept that these things that I may not want to experience will be present... and if they comes to my bubble then I can request that these things are not to be brought in. If we cannot tolerate these "rules or terms of physical engagement" with each other - then it is best that we have space from each other - and love from afar. This is ok. This is mutual respect and giving each other the right to be who and what we are in this world - knowing that right now - in this existence - we are just not that compatible with the vibration that each of us is currently expressing - and that is ok. Think about it for a moment... penguins do not live in the north and polar bears do not live in the south. Lions do not live in the south pole... and polar bears do not live in a tropical area. Nothing wrong with that is there? We each have our time and our place.. lets find harmony with that and allow for us to each exist in our own time and space... and allow that we do not have to have it all perfect right now - we are learning and growing and expressing different experiences - and that is ok. So reach out and love in the spiritual realm as unconditionally as you can... while honouring yourself as a human expression of divine love and light in a particular frequency that is not always in harmony with everything else on earth realm. Love the spirit in the other - love the soul in each other - and give each other space to be who and what you each are in the earthly realm. Its a wonderful continual work in progress - and where we are right now - is just fine. Much love Arleen Ever find yourself walking along in life and then it starts to look like you are going to go through a storm? It gets so scary and things look like its history repeating itself - and part of you just wants to run back to the old safety you know. All those old voices and programing from the past start to shout and scream at you - go back - go back to where its safe - just do all those old things... then you will be safe!!! Then I find myself looking over my shoulder - oh so tempted to go back... and sometimes I even start to move backwards - I turn around and start to go backwards... I hear those inner voices clamoring for my attentions about how things are going to get worse... you can't take this risk!! You can't win! You can't be happy! You have to fix it for everyone else first or you won't be safe!!! This is when I have to take a few huge deep breaths and just stop.... take stock of where I am.... really check in. I have to connect to my higher self - to my course... and in this dark place that can be so hard - because my past and all my old programs are so loud and they really cause a huge din. They want my attention - they want me to go back to them... they want me to be safe with them - because "better the devil you know then the devil you don't"!!!! Stop!!!!! Take stock!! Breathe!!! Connect!!! What if the devil you don't know isn't a devil but paradise??? Remember - what I am seeing around me in that moment is the result of my past actions and thinking... not my current action and thinking. So is this what I want to keep on repeating? Is this what I want to keep on creating? Its like a stuck record... if I don't change and keep taking these steps forwards and write my life in a new way - I will never experience anything else - I will just keep on repeating my past - my old thoughts and patterns will just keep on proving themselves. I have to give a new way a chance! I have to keep on reminding myself that the old way is what produced my current reality. New patterns take some time to manifest - they don't necessarily manifest immediately - there is a gap. So I have to give it the time it needs to manifest and just keep on taking the next step - just keep on holding the new focus I want to move towards. Its like driving at night... we can't see very far ahead of ourselves- just as much as our light beams shine on. We have our end destination in mind and we keep on driving towards it...even though we can't see it yet - and even though its all dark and scary around us - we don't stop and turn around and go backwards! So this is life as well... just because its new and things are happening around us is not a sign that its not working - its the sign that there is change - we are entering new territory - and yes - its new and that can be scary - and yes - sometimes we pass through a storm - but they do blow over. So instead of giving up to the old and going backwards... how about loving ourselves and supporting ourselves on our great and exciting journey forward? Giving ourselves the comfort and reassurance we need to just keep on taking the next step - holding the goal in mind and aiming for it - one step at a time? This is the only way we are going to manifest the desired outcome and the only way to stop repeating our old patterns! So today - stop - and take stock... look at how far you have come - rather than how far you still have to go... look at all the things that are showing you just how well you have done - and how things are actually working for you. Don't let the scary things stop you - let them propel you forwards - as they are temporary and they will pass.. just like a storm - and oh - its so beautiful when the rainbow comes out and the sun shines again!! Take shelter in your loving heart and the arms of your angels as they walk with you and encourage you to just keep going!! This too shall pass and then... a new life is there for you with wonderful new experiences. Much love Arleen All my life I have loved the idea of magic. I have always wanted a magic wand and wanted to be able to cast spells... I have always believed that there must be some type of magic in life. To me - life without magic - is boring. So - when I find life feeling a bit dull - ts time to cast some magic - to look for the magic in life. Then again - why wait for it to become boring before doing this? Why not make magic part of your every day life? Why not make magic some you do and create every day too? What is magic? Its that little bit of mystery and delight and sparkling stars that make a difference... and that bring joy and that make interesting things happen... its whatever you want it to be. Its the twinkles in life. Its the delight in someone's eyes, or smile, that warms your heart and brings that suddenly uplifting feeling... you can call it love too if you like....but I just love to call it magic... I love to think of how thoughts and words can cast a spell over something and make a difference. Traditionally - there are always words involved - a spell.... So you have to think it - you have to use your mind with intention. You can have a wand or you can use your hands... or any other action.... and again - its all about intention. So - magic - is focused intention... focused words and actions - to bring about a particular result. Now - these days I do have a wand!! In fact I have two - my vortex wands... beautiful wooden wands with vortex cards in them that are designed by Jeff Levin... and they hold the frequency of the Merkaba...but - these are my healing tools - and although I sometime use them to make magic - and they are delightfully magical... they are not what I use daily for casting my spells... so don't panic if you don't have a vortex wand like I do - you can still cast your magic - with your mind and your focused intention. Just think about the results you want in life...and set some intentions about it - be playful... cast a spell of your own... but - it must be for good... for your own good - for the highest good of all...magic - although it has been used for dark - should really not be used for dark - as it does have a spring back effect... what you cast on others always comes back to you - so cast good!! What you sow you reap - so sow consciously... so that you reap what you would love to reap. Tune into the magic around you in your daily life - our world is full of it. Its spring time - and flowers are bursting forth from bulbs and trees and plants - things are coming alive.. feel the magic in that!! Feel the life force in that and let it infect you - let it cast its magical spell on you too - to enliven you and bring this growth of energy into you too. Close you eyes and look up to the sun and feel its warmth touch you - warm you... breath it in and let it infuse you with light and love and warmth - that is magic!!! Then send that feeling out into the word to all who need it and want it... never force it though - it needs to be received in free will... remember - you can lead a horse to water - but you can't make it drink - so never force your magic touch onto any who really do not want it - allow them free will and then you too have free will. See the sparkles of life and delight in life - in all around you - see into others and allow yourself to see their soul... that is magic.... and let it touch your heart...now that is deep magic!!! Let your own heart grow and expand with it... allow the delight of life to touch you today!!!! Much love Arleen Have you ever found yourself wondering ..."What is the point of life?" To me - after so much soul searching... and searching everywhere else... it has come to mean - to be more me - to live my life in as much fullness of expression of me as I can - and to get happy. All the books I have read... all the courses I have been on - they all point to this... be who I am...and be happy with that - and just get happy. I see how much pressure I have put myself in in the past... do this ...do that.. please this one...please that one.... and really - it did not make any difference to those people in the long term. You cannot make someone else happy... not really. You can appease them with your actions etc... and you can lift them up with good things... but you can't make them feel happy - its something they do for themselves... they decide to allow happiness in. Yes - I do love to do things that bring a smile to people...but why do I do those things?? I do them because actually - it makes me feel good inside... it brings me great joy... so see how much me there is in this?? Am I doing it to make them happy? Yes - in part - because I love to see someone smile... I love joy and I love to spread it and infect people with it... but - like all infections - it can't get in unless that person wants to let it in. Our defenses have to be down to let something in. If a door is closed and bolted shut... you can put in huge effort to smash it down... but in many cases - all you get is a massive bruised and painful arm! So if this applies to others - of course it applies to me too. If my door is closed and bolted shut - nothing is going to get in until I LET IT IN!!!!!! So its time to check my doors... all those internal doors and external walls. Have I got huge high walls of resistance around me? Are some of them called Worry? Doubt? Self hatred? Lack of self worth? Lack of deserve-ability? All of these things are blockers and they stop the good stuff of life from coming in - they block happiness, and love. They act like beaters - raining misery down on my back. They can stop me from achieving success - because if I have those blockers in the way and they are active - then our comes good old sabotage to mess things up... "You can't have this... you have not done this or that!!!" "You can't be happy ,because Tom is not happy!!!" "Blah Blah Blah..." Really??? Since when? These are just more stories we have brought into, to stop ourselves from getting or having what we want. The sun shines regardless of how many clouds are in the sky. These blockers are like those clouds in the sky... the good stuff - as in the sun - is out there - constantly... but - we can cloud over and block it - or we can blow those clouds away and let the good stuff in and start to feel better immediately...regardless of what else is going on in the world. Yes.. sometimes we need to go through expressions to wash those clouds and misery away - but... then... we can stop and breathe and reconnect to the sunshine of life again... its there!!! Somehow - when I do let go of the "stuff" that is bothering me... either by just dropping it, changing focus, or expressing the stuff.... then I find that calm clear space - and start to breathe, and then the sun starts to shine again (even on a cloudy day)... and I can find that spot of warmth inside myself - and out there in the world.. its starts to reflect it back at me.... and life gets better... and just keeps on getting better...because that is why I am here.. to be me.... and to be happy! Much love Arleen You are good enough. You really are. So often in life - we tend to judge ourselves on all the things we do - on all our achievements - and when is enough enough? Its like we have to prove something to someone? Who are we proving this to? Yes - we go through life - and we get graded in school, and in so many other areas of life - we get an A, B, C etc... and for so many this seems to then become the rest of their life - am I an A person - or just a B or C - and if so - is that good enough? What does this good enough thing mean? What is this being enough all about really? What does it matter? How much shame is attached to this? Have you ever given a compliment to someone and seen them turn their head away and brush it off... its as if they can't take it in...its too much - or perhaps they just think you are being nice? I remember this used to be my story, and sometimes - it still is. Once in a while the old insecure inner child one surfaces and I just don't take it in. In those moments - I can't take it in - the shame of the old one just is so big and the old pain blocks me from being able to receive the gift of another's approval, love or gratitude towards me. Somehow - the old internal guilt , fear or shame, does not feel I deserve this praise, because I am not enough... not good enough, not worthy enough, not whatever enough - just not enough!! Do you know this old story? In my life - it used to drive me to push harder and harder and harder, and give more and more and more of myself until I had nothing left. So I went inside and found a little girl who was dealing with others who were projecting their guilt and shame onto her. They did not feel good enough and so - she could not. She spent years trying to make it up to them - trying to fix them, until she realised she could not fix them - they had to fix themselves. She had to understand that the fear that drove them may well have been relevant for them in their time - but it was no longer relevant to her in her life. So basically - it was not about her - but about them. The world never stopped when I stopped trying so hard. No one suffered. The only one who had been suffering was me. All of this resulted in the me back then not being able to accept things, or compliments, or love from others... because somehow inside I felt flawed. So I had to go back to the one who felt that way and reassure her that she was perfect as she was... good enough as she was - in fact - more than good enough. She needed to know that she did deserve to have good things in her life. She needed to learn that is was ok to be loved - because who she was and is, as a person - was worth it... deserved it. Slowly - bit by bit - and day by day - this me - learned to lift my head up - and to look people in the eye - without flinching back. To allow myself to be seen for who I really am - a beautiful being - worthy of love and respect. Slowly I learned that what I give to others is worth a great deal, or they would not be wanting that from me. Slowly I learned that I am a very loving being - and I deserve to be loved in return - and that is was ok to accept that deep love from others. Why else would these amazing people love me if I was not worthy of being loved? Why else would they be sticking around to be with me if I was not worth it? So I was able to start telling myself and really feeling it - I am enough... I am more than enough. This then allowed me to start to interact with the world around me in a much more deep and rich way. I allowed myself to really take it all in....deep inside - and to allow myself to really feel the love and the nurture from others and the world... you really have to let it in deep and let it touch you - they way - you are touching others. This is the blessing of life- the in breath and the out breath - the giving and receiving - its a flow! So today - just be you - and know just how special you are. Make a list if needed... of all the qualities you have that are so special and are you... of why you are enough - and of why you are lovable.... fall in love with you... you are worth it. You are enough. Much love. |
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