Today I am inspired to write about a process I use that I shared with a client recently. Ultimately - we are all one and come from the same light source..but most of us do not really think about that or connect to that...it can seem so distant. This is especially true when we are in strife of some sort...then light is dim and all is dark. People can come into our lives that feel so alien, so dark , messy and annoying!!! So - when I am in this space - I take a few moments to just stop - and breathe.... Never forget the importance of breathing - it is essential for our lives, and it calms us down... taking in oxygen deep into our lungs gives us life force energy - this is why it works!! Where I can I also close my eyes and look towards the sun or light.... breathing in the light of life so to speak! From this space I look inwards - deep into my own body and being - to where my own inner light is. Sometimes I can feel so lost that the light is so dim and so small - but - it will always be there - no matter how bad things are - because it only goes out when we leave our body for good. So long as you are alive - there will be a light source within your body. Once I can see it - I focus on it- and I consciously drop into it... as if I could shrink myself and fall right inside it... here I can breath and with each breath I imagine expanding this light in my body - more and more with each breath - breathing in the light and expanding it and breathing out the stress.... Don't worry if you can't "actually" see it - this is the mind we are working with - the imagination- the reptilian brain. This part of our brain accepts everything we imagine as real. When we think of biting into a sour lemon our mouths actually begin to salivate - this is because this part of the brain takes everything we imagine as real... so reality is what we think it is....and our cells and body will respond as if it is real....and so it becomes real. So focusing on growing this light - I expand it into my heart.. from here - the light can infect my blood and be carried in the blood to every cell of my body - I don't have to try hard here - I just have to let it happen - and it will happen automatically within 3 minutes. Once my whole body is filled with the light of my soul... I expand it with my breath outwards into my whole aura...so that my whole body is now within a bubble of my own light. From here I place an energetic shield of protection around my field... programming it to allow all that is to my highest good to enter and exit. In doing this - anything that is not meant to be in my body or field is expelled... as anything dark runs away from the light - just think of how cockroaches run from the light when you switch on the light - and so it is with lower negative energy vibrations. Once I am in this space - I begin to feel much better about life - and now I am ready to look at any other people in my life that I have been feeling negative about. Often I find that its been my own negative projection that I have placed on the other person that has made me see them as dark... it is not them I have been seeing at all - just a reflection of my own black mood! If we are wearing dark glasses - or bad mood glasses- then we see the world through that filter of our mood or belief systems - and we are not seeing the world as it is or people as they are - we are seeing our own thought forms being reflected back at us!!! Other times I will see that the person I am looking at is indeed in a dark place and they may well have forgotten their own light - or be detached from it.. but - I know- as they are alive - that deep within them is their own light - no matter how dimly it is showing. What we focus on expands and we see what we are looking for... this is the simple way that we work really. So - if we are focusing on the dark in another - then that is what we will see and attract from them. Likewise - if we look for the light in them - then we can find it and the mere act of looking for it and focusing on it - expands that light in them. This is the greatest service we can offer to another... to look for their light and expand on it. Now - if they are in the middle of a bad phase in life and deep in drugs, for example - this does not mean we let our guard down and go all airy fairy love and light... no - we still put up our boundaries - but we look from afar - from a safe space...and meditate on the light within them. But - in other situations - which is the more usual situation I find myself in....I take off my glasses of projection and start to think about all the good in the other person - all the things they are doing right... and I look into them to find their inner light... and focus on it... and soon - I feel such an opening of my heart and such a deep appreciation for that person... I literally start to see them in a different light!!! I then find that either the conflict I felt just resolves naturally - or I am able to approach them in a much lighter more open way - where we are both receptive to each other - and are able to resolve the issue in a far more constructive way that benefits both of us. Remember - what we focus on - we get more of... so we can take responsibility to focus on our own light - thereby expanding it - and the light of others... again - expanding it... and then onward to a more joyful and light filled experience. Much love Arleen
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There is a lot of attention beginning to be paid to how we label things... but how often do we stop and pay attention to how we label ourselves? When we label something - its a brand - its sticks.... well the same happens when we label others and when we label ourselves... its like a brand - it stick - its vibrates - it resonates... and then it magnetically attracts those qualities or things to itself, or it reflects those things back to us. How do you label others in your life? "He is a looser." "She is a cow". "He is a hunk" "She is a beaut." What happens when we label someone? We place filters on our eyes and see them according to the label...and then we focus on the label - and we judge them according to the label we have applied to prove that they deserve that label. The same happens when we label ourselves!! So what labels have you applied to yourself? Take a piece of paper - and just tune in - what are the sorts of descriptions you give yourself? What names do you call yourself? "I am so stupid... I am so forgetful.. oh I am just a clumsy klutz.... I am just being silly... I am not brave enough... I am...I am... I am...." Its like walking around with all these sticky labels attached to ourselves when we do this - and when we do it to someone else - its the same thing...we are sticking that energy or vibration onto them. Are they really true?? Is this really what we want to project onto someone else? Is this really what we want to have stuck onto ourselves? Imagine this is a child that you are doing this too... how does it feel now to stick these labels onto them? Are these things you would want that child to aspire to? This is what we are doing. We all do it.... we just need to become more aware of it and take more responsibility for it. If we want to experience a different reality - then we need to become aware of these labels, as the labels become a focus for attention and energy, and where there is more focused energy - there is an expansion of that quality or experience... we get more of it - regardless of whether it is really true or not - as its a perception. So we will see it through those filters of the labels and then experience it as if that is real... as its our "reality". So now - lets take another piece of paper and write down what we would prefer to be labeled as.... "I am...", and fill it out... just let your mind go and connect to that inner part of yourself that is your soul... and let it fill in the gaps... starting each sentence with... "I am....". Or - you can just think about what you would like to experience more of... say you want more confidence.. then write it down as ..." I am more confident", or just "I am confident". Once you have your list... then I suggest placing it on your bathroom mirror if you can - or next to your bed...and then once or twice a day.. or more if you can... read the list out loud - like a declaration. Where possible... really get into it - rev your engine up when you say them... so you can feel the energy of it... close you eyes and imagine what it would be like to be like this... imagine those qualities coming into you.... as they already are there - you are just not yet fully conscious of them yet. If you need some inspiration - then watch this delightful you tube clip of little Jessica doing her daily affirmations....www.youtube.com/watch?v=qR3rK0kZFkg If we are going to label ourselves - then let's be a lot more conscious about it and productive with it - and label ourselves into empowerment. When it comes to labeling others... well we are all human after all.... try and look for some good quality you see in that person - and label them with that instead. You don't have to suddenly fall in love with them - or say things in your head about them which you have not experienced as truth... just don't harp on about it. Take a deep breath... and get into a better space... and then when you do think about them, think about something that is positive about them, and stick that label onto them. What you focus on - you get more of! One of the tricks I do... firstly I vent out my frustration.... without labels... just vent and express the emotions I am feeling. Then... once the fuzz it out... I connect to my soul and angles helpers. From this space I look for the soul in the other - I focus on the light inside them. There is always some light in there or they would not be breathing. I acknowledge that light. From there I can thank them for the lessons they teach me, and then, if I can.. I let go. Sometimes... I have to do this over and over and over again... for months..... I am so very human!! Over time - it gets easier - and then in time... the frustration levels dissipate and I am able to see more and more of the beauty and positive aspects of that person. Much of the time... what I am seeing is really my own frustrations... as others so often mirror our own short comings!! Much love Arleen So you wake up and you are putting one foot in front of the other - and you have your head down and you are focused and getting on with it.... and then...whammo... out of the blue comes this thing that just knocks the wind right out of your sails!!! Where did that come from? In times like this I always feel that its just so unfair.... here I am working hard on getting things right and on holding my vision and getting by... and whammo... really?? Ever heard of timing mate?? Nope - Guess not!! Well - in fact - the timing is always right in these cases. But - that does not stop me wanting to yell out at the world and call it all sorts of names!!! The first issue here is that my head was down - not up! The second issue is that I was focused on just getting by - and so that is what was happening - I was just getting by... no thriving - no excitement - just surviving... and its at times like that when the wind does get knocked out. Getting by is not a strong position - its a desperate one. It is not centered, and the focus is on basic survival... not expansion. Oh - so easy to say these things when I am in a better position - but - how on earth do I get from that irritating annoying struggling place into a stronger more focused one? We have to get our wind back into our sails!!! How? Firstly... when knocked down - just stay there for a few minutes and breathe and let yourself recover. Way too often I have found myself wanting to jump right up and carry on battling... but - I am not in a war zone and actually - I do have the time to take a few minutes out to stop and just be there for a while. I do have the time to just be quiet and assess what is going on before reacting... a reaction is not taking good considered action - its not a good response - its a knee jerk reaction that is coming from a place of fear - not from a place on solidity and strength. I never make my best decisions or take my best actions from that place. So stay there... stay down for a while and just be there to let your sense realign. Get your bearing back... I know I am in reaction because I can feel my heart rate increase and my breathing change and my whole body just pulls inward and gets tight. In this place I am small and fearful. I need to reconnect to my power - to my energy flow of life... to my soul. So when you find yourself in this place - stop... give yourself some time to regroup....to center... do not make any important decisions here - put everyone and everything off for a while... If you are at work - go to the toilet... generally you can catch your breath there and regroup...this buys you some time. Once alone... just breathe.... drop into that place deep inside yourself... and just breathe....and let go....and just be there.... Just take the time to be with you.... with the one who is feeling knocked.... Feel into the solidity of the earth beneath you..... and if you can turn your face to a light source - do so - if not - imagine it.... tune to the light... and let it connect into you....breathe in the light - deep into your body and let out some huge out breaths... blowing out the stress and frustration. Try not think - just be here - just filling up with the light... feeling the solidity of the earth... and letting out the stress.... There is a panicked part that will want to have it all sorted out now - immediately... so I have to talk that part into a calmer space..."its OK.. its OK... I am OK... its all going to be OK... things can all just wait a little longer... I can give myself this time and space right now - to just be... and regroup... and the decisions can wait for a while... the earth is still turning...I am still breathing... its OK". This just gives me time... time to calm own - time to recenter... time to re energize and to take myself out of fight or flight.... into a more creative space where solutions and better information can reach me - so that I make better responses - rather than panicked reactions. From this space.. of connecting to the earth and the light... I just start to look around me for good things... colours... pictures.... flowers... anything... as the more I see beautiful things or even just remember them - the better my energy levels will become... The more my energy levels improve - the more I can become calmer - and then - the highest aspect of me has access to my brain...and can think more clearly... you cannot think when you are panicked!! From here - I can see if I do need to take any immediate action... or if it can all wait for a while...often...it can actually wait. From here I can decide where my attention really needs to be - what needs my focus - and what is just panic.... How can I serve my soul, myself best? Yes.. I do have to put myself in the picture and ask that question - as at the end of the day - no matter what we do or say - it really is about ourselves. Yes - I serve many others - but not if I take panicked action.... and not if I stress myself to the point of total inaction and end up wrung up and miserable. In this space - I can now reach inside of me and find my own inner light - my own inner strength and just breathe into it... feel it growing... and growing until it fills me completely... using my imagination. Remember this is all done using the reptilian part of the brain - and this part of the brain takes everything as real - so the more I can imagine something - the better - my actual physical body will respond to this and my energy levels will change. I imagine this light inside me growing and filling every cell of my body - and I feel my posture change... and strength returning... From here - I imagine this light of my strength surrounding me as well - so that I am int he center of this bubble....and it becomes like a shield of protection... holding me... with the strength of the earth growing up my spine - feeling that straitening and connecting to the sun... to the cosmos... It does not matter what you imagine so long as it gives you protection and strength...and a feeling of calm and safety... once you have this in place... your brain can re- engage from a much better and far more creative place... as you will find the correct response you need to make - in clarity - and not a reaction from fear. No - its not always easy.... it can feel like climbing a huge mountain bare foot and bleeding... but... if we stop - and allow ourselves the time to just breathe and let go.... and connect back to ourselves, and the sun, and the earth... we can get through it - step by step...because the wind will then come back into our sails....and we will fly again! Much love Arleen Oh I am so amusing!! Well - that little ego part of me that really struggles to grow is!! I have this side of me that tries so hard to please and does not want to rock anyone's boat, or upset anyone... or cost anyone anything etc... All very well dear one - but... we still need to feed the family!!! So here is me branching out and expanding - and here is me - still trying to stay small - ahhh - amusing!! I expand and I reach out - and then I reject things that come towards me that will actually benefit me... Expansion and then contraction. Its a contradiction... and yet - this is life. So - as usual - I discover that there is yet another layer to peel off - and yet a bit more work to do. I could get really upset with the part of me that wants to contract - or I could have compassion and connect to that side of me and check in with her... often I find that when I do - this is a much younger me - one who is in fear. Yelling and getting mad that that side of me does no good - just makes her shrink more and contract more.... what she needs is reassurance , love and compassion. When I connect to her - I see she is still stuck in some old stories... where its dangerous for her to be seen or to accept things. I ask her what she needs and what will help her in that story? She needs to feel safe, and that if she accepts things she will not later be falsely accused or punished, as happened for her in those earlier stories. I surround her in loving light and give her permission to grow - to be stronger... infusing her with strong white light.... breathing in this powerful light - which is her own light.. the light of her soul... the light of her truth - that she is here to be a being of light - a being who can grow and expand and show the way for others too, who are lost in confusion.... and that there will be protection in place for her when she does. I wrap her in a purple bubble of light that repels the negativity of others and then, as she connects to Arch Angel Michael - in a coat of his protection. She now feels safer and can relax. Once she is more relaxed I can then communicate more with her and she tells me she is wanting support. I know I am working with my imagination here and that my reptilian brain does not know the difference between real and imagined - so imagination will work.... so I just sink into my chair and feel the support my chair gives me - telling myself - this is what support feels like... I am supported... and really feel it. I then imagine the chair turning into something bigger - like the Earth, or God - or great big warriors... whatever works.... and again - just feeling the support...and then I let my mind wander and list all the ways I am actually already being supported in life.... and there are so many ways and so many people out there really supporting me. Again - this part of me relaxes more and more.....and from here - I can reassure this aspect of myself that I still have a home, and have wonderful clients... I have a loving family and beautiful friends... the sun is shining... I have fresh water to drink and so on and so on - the list is really pretty impressive now...and I feel a deep sense of peace and so much gratitude for all that is already working in my life. From here - I can enter the space of accepting, rather than rejecting, the good that comes towards me as I feel safe again. From here I can trust what comes towards me. From here I can embrace my power and grow and not worry about having to hold it all or carry it all , or please the world. From here - I can just be me - being me- because that is good enough and that is why I am here - and this is where my power and success is!! Much love Arleen We have all heard the various phrases like " Don't sweat the small stuff", and "making mountains out of mole hills"... but are we listening this great advise and actually applying it in our lives? How often do we stress over things ,that at the end, really do mot matter and will have very little impact on our lives? When we pour energy into things like stress and worry- into every little factor in our lives - we are using up vital energy and time. It will serve us so much more if we applied that same energy into a direction in life that does actually matter and that will make much more difference. How often do we stress over not having enough time - and there we are - pouring all that effort and energy into something that really does not serve us? Its time to take stock and take control of our energy, and where we put it. Its time to prioritize what really matters and who really matters. So - here I ask myself- does doing this takes make a difference in my life? If yes - how important is it? If it needs to be done - then how good does it need to be done... how much energy is it worth? Does it need to be done to absolute perfection? Does it just need to be done at a basic level? To justify this - I ask myself - how much impact is the end result going to have on my life? Some things - we just need to get done and tick the box - so pouring my life and soul into it is really not worth it - just getting the basics done is good enough. Other things will have a huge impact - so even if I don't enjoy it that much - I know that getting a good result here is going to impact my life for the better - so that gives me a good motivation to do it and do it well. Changing the motivation makes a huge difference ,as then I feel real value in getting it done well, and my focus changes and the resentment and irritation levels drops. When we do something with huge resentment and irritation - it takes far more energy to do as we are working in resistance - like pushing a car uphill. So if we really need to do something because it serves us - we can then change how we feel about doing it, as we can see the benefit and focus on that - then - it takes less energy as the car will now be going downhill. If we discover that something really does not need our attention at all - just drop it...remove your focus and energy from it and let it go. Let someone else pick it up if it has meaning to them - or delegate the task to someone else who has a vested interest in getting it done... like getting paid for it. Sometimes its cheaper to hire someone else to do something, than to work though our own irritation levels to do it ourselves. other times its really beneficial for us to work through those levels and change out attitude ...so its a matter of determining which serves you better. So with each thing that comes up today , where you feel irritation - ask yourself - does this serve me? This could also apply to worrying about pleasing others, to being concerned about how you look, to fussing about having something look just right.... does it serve you? Is it going to make a huge difference to your life? Is it going to be worth the effort and energy required? If not - drop it. If yes - then how important is it - how much energy is it worth investing? Remember - everything we focus on is energy investment - it needs to be worth it. If its helping you gain what you really want from life - then go for it and change your attitude in how you do it or the attention you give it. Attitude changes the amount of energy investment and can make a huge impact on how much time it takes to get a task done. It also impacts on how we feel and how we feel impacts on our creativity levels. If you want to get creative then you need to feel good and inspired. You can create in a negative space - but - it costs more energy and more time too... so its all a matter of choice and awareness. The more aware we are - the better choices we make - the more time and effort we save - and all of that can result in better outcomes. Many blessings Arleen |
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