Today I was soaking in the bath, reflecting on what has been happening in the last few days and what to write about... what have my lessons been?
I have had a wonderful weekend of love and romance with my beloved hubby, and then yesterday we had a stand at a health expo.
I gave a session to a lady and much of it was about looking at what she had managed to do in a day - instead of focusing on all the things she could not yet do , or had not managed to fit into the day.
So often we do so many amazing things in a day and instead of celebrating what we have achieved - we berate ourselves on all that we have yet to do. This gives us a sense of never being about to get there - and being angry and frustrated with all that we have yet to do. This pulls our energy down.
A wise person once said that life is a journey - not a destination. We are supposed to enjoy the journey and revel in the discover of each step we take - delight in the sights and the experience...instead many of us complain that we are not there yet.
Like children in a long car trip... are we there yet? Are we there yet??
Stop... look around you - enjoy the ride... look at the scenery - its so beautiful.. enjoy the experience of getting there...because... there is no there..its an eternally evolving journey - not a destination.
Celebrate all that you have done to get here...take the time to really appreciate the effort it has taken you to get this far. Reward yourself along the way. This will give you the energy to keep going. If you whine and complain along the way - its becomes so hard and tedious and you end up wanting to give and and just go back.
This is like someone who takes on the challenge of swimming across the English channel... they swim and swim and swim and swim... and its foggy and misty so they can't see the shore yet, so they don't know how close they are...and they get frustrated so they turn around and go back. Had they just kept on going they would have arrived at the shore... it was foggy and they could not see it - that does not mean its not there. Once they get there though - they have achieved this part of the journey - but - if they are adventurous - they could keep going and explore the wonderful world on the other side.
On the other hand... its a good idea to have a goal and a destination... and to aim for it - absolutely.
This gives you the direction to focus on. But, if you keep looking back at all that is not right and all that is wrong in life - its like walking backwards on this journey... and that does not work out that well, as when I do that - I tend to trip over things and fall over and walk in circles and bang into things. You have to keep your goal and your destination in mind... but - along the way - enjoy the process and celebrate each step you take - celebrate all the little victories you achieve... and these are the building blocks that take you to the mayor goal - the big victory. The building is built from hundreds of small bricks... not one huge one.
So many people live life backwards.... they complain about not being where they want to be - and about all the things that they did not get and all the things that are wrong in life... but... they are not focused on what they want..they are focusing on all the things they do not want - so they then move towards those things they do not want - as they are walking backwards. You move towards what you look at - or what you focus on... if you want more good stuff - then focus on all the good stuff you already have achieved - on all the good stuff that is already in your life... at everything that is already working - at all the things that you have going in your favour... and hold that focus and celebrate it.
Feel the gratitude for it...this acts like a powerful magnet and pulls more of it to you and pulls you in the direction you want to go because that is what you are looking towards and focusing on -while celebrating and enjoying the journey - it gives you energy.
So today - look at all that you have achieved... celebrate all these mini victories and you will see how many are actually large major victories. Feel how great that is.... and then use that energy to pull you along the journey towards what you want.