I have written about magic before – blog post 21- however – this subject keeps coming up – so its time to review it at this very magical time of year. I hear people telling me that the magic has gone out of life or they have lost the magic in life. There is only one way to fix this – you have to find it again… and to find something means you have to look for it. Sometimes in life – things find us – yes…but its far more effective to get active and go on the hunt yourself. If you lost it – you can find it. The very act of looking puts you back into empowerment as you are taking the power back into your own hands and you are doing something about it – rather than being a passive victim about it. Yes – that may sound a bit harsh – but… its not really. Its about taking action – about making some kind of movement – and as soon as you begin to move – you are no longer where you were before – and you are empowering yourself. So – how to find the magic in life again… you look for it. You have to become more present to life – to start looking outside of your little cloud of doom and gloom and into the world… Yes.. I know – I am making light of some really heavy stuff.. but we need a touch of humour here to help. When we are miserable and exhausted with life – we are a bit like “Eeyore” from the “Winnie The Pooh” stories – the lovely donkey who can be found to walk around in his own rain cloud when the rest of them are out in the sun. Life does give us these times…and sometimes that cloud is a huge hurricane of destruction and seems to go on forever. However, time and again – the sun does come out after the storm. While we are in the storm its pure hell, and feels like it is forever, but it does change. Life is always on the move. The sun continues to come out time and time again – in fact – the sun – is always out there shining… it’s the clouds that cover it from view and the earth that turns. So, its we ourselves that go into our clouds of darkness and turn our backs on the light, on the magic. The light is the magic. So this means we have to poke through those clouds and let the light back in – we have to turn around and face the light again and allow it to touch us. The power is in ourselves. Christmas and New years can be a huge dark cloud for so many people – so many unmet desires and disappointments – its so much history that comes back time and time again. How do we change the dark cloud into allowing in more light – how do we find the magic in these conditions?? Firstly – we have to want to… we have to make the decision that this is what we want to do. This means engaging our will and choosing a different point of focus. For those who have studied Life Alignment – think back to Body Spin where we do the 4 steps of the emotional release process- step one – we feel… this is where we connect to where we are right now and come into the present moment with it – as healing happens in the present. In step two – we choose to feel – where we are making a conscious choice of where we would rather be – of how we would rather be – this is the change of focus and this is all about empowerment. We then go into releasing what is holding us back… and in this process – you can think about it as using whatever methods you can to let go of the dark black cloud…. This can be through crying, screaming, shouting, painting, invoking angelic or other help… and then…. You can open up to receive something better… and this process always works. One you have made the choice to find the magic again – then it’s a matter of actively looking for it in every area of life. Look for positive stories on media and social media… there are so many of them out there. Watch heart warming movies – and let yourself be touched by the hope and the love. Watch people… actively look for goodness and kindness in others – it is apparent everywhere when you look for it, and focus on it when you find it. Look at nature – this in itself, is pure magic in action… its like watching creation reveal itself to you in all that it does. Each time you see it – let it touch you – open your heart and let it inside. Breath it in. Smell it. Touch it. Use all your senses to connect to it. Become the magic. This is the most powerful way of all to reconnect to magic – is to actually be the means through which magic happens for yourself, others and the planet. How can you help others experience magic? Smile at others. Give people real compliments. Make eye contact with strangers. Buy a stranger flowers, or if you can’t afford that – pick a few. Help someone – anyone – in any way you can. Say a prayer for someone. Think of something good about someone who is really annoying you…because there is always something good in people… that bastard may have really lovely eyes, or they may really love their dog… look for that one thing about them- and if not – then send them a blessing as they must be hurting really badly to hurt others. Find things to be grateful for – no matter how small. Pick up litter and throw it in the bin. Find something good about yourself. Do something good for yourself. All of these things will add up, and bring a lighter feeling to you so that the clouds start to thin and the light can begin to filter in… and the light brings the magic – as it is the magic. Connect to the light inside if you can- imagine it… it is there – even if its really really small – it will be there – as if you are alive – there is a spark of light inside you. Visualise or imagine the light coming through your eyes, your ears, your nose, your hands and your heart… imagine you can touch others and yourself with this light. Start with yourself – where does this light need to go? Send it there – touch there. Listen through the light. Smell through the light. Taste through the light. Touch with the light. Feel with the light. The light will bring your heart into a more open and receptive space and you will feel the love – the magic – again. The more you engage with light, the more you will find and see magic … love… in your life again. Much love Arleen
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"Tis the seasons to be Jolly..." ??? Really?? How many of us are?? How many of us are seriously stressed out and in flat our panic mode instead? So much to do on an already stretched out budget with so little time... all these expectations to meet... and the food... and then the realisation that the year is almost done and what have we achieved... or not yet achieved in this time??? Tick tock - the clock is ticking and how to do it all in the time that is left? Yep - I have been in seriously stressed bunny mode!! Sudden wake up... what for?? I see all my old stress buttons getting pressed and I fall off my center and into my "please them all " mode… and I am a headless chicken for a while... dictated to by expectations and fear!! (Most of these being in my imagination and not real at all!!) When am I going to wake up more and learn to live more fully for myself without trying to please others? I am still beating that old drum! What if this one is not happy with my gift? Have I spent enough on them? Are they going to get upset if this one gets this and that one gets that?? Oh enough already!! What is this season supposed to be about? There are many religious points of view here - and I feel so many of us have lost the vision and the idea of what this season is supposed to be and to mean... and we get caught up in an advertising hype of buy buy buy and please please please... it’s a bit crazy when you step back and really look at it. To me, Christmas is supposed to be a message of love... and an expression of sharing and caring and giving from this place of love... remember.. . "it’s the thought that counts"? When did it become a time of comparison and living up to expectations? What can we do to bring it back to what it really is all about? Why not decide for ourselves what meaning to give it? So let's find ways this year to express love and acceptance this year. To give that to ourselves and to others. Let's take the pressure off and let it be a wonderful, loving experience again. Let’s find ways to be kind and loving to ourselves as well. Perhaps write out messages to others of how they have touched your heart this year, and of how proud you are of them... what have they done this year that is worthy of being noticed? Perhaps we need to look deep into each other’s eyes and tell them how much they mean to us and how grateful we are that they are in our lives? Let's take the time to tell others about the areas in life where they have got it right. Let's take the time to look for the beauty and the specialness in each other.... and then... in ourselves. Because After Christmas comes the dreaded New Year!! Once again the pressure is felt as we look back over the last year and see all the things we have not done... all the areas where we failed!! This year... let's take some time to reflect on all the things we did do. Let's take the time to see all we have achieved and how much it took to achieve those things. Let's acknowledge just how far we have come. Let's acknowledge all the love and support that has been there for us. Let's connect to the spirit world and acknowledge just how much support and love we get from there. From this space - we can then look forward and start to visualise what next - in a loving way - and in an excited way. If we visuliase from love and hope, then we are in a much better space to start the new year... this is far more powerful than from creating from frustration and disappointment. Build your vision from love and passion. We have come this far - ok great - now from here... what is the next step? Hold a vision of where you want to be - and then pull back to just the next step... life is a long journey - and we don't get there until the end of this one - and then only to continue the same journey in a different way... so no panic and rush... How about this next year we enjoy the process more? How about taking the time to stop and reflect and enjoy th scenery more... to look around us in wonderment of all that is there? Have a great time.... Much love Arleen What has come to mind lately is the level of judgement and criticism we all have for each other. This is, in many ways, totally natural... our whole lives program us for this. We are judged from day one onwards, and in that sense, we are programmed to judge and compare all the time. Thus, we compare ourselves to others and we judge and criticise others... and ourselves. But - where does this leave us? What are the results? Does it really serve us? Let's look at the simple fact - that what we focus on we attract more of.... If this is true - then if we are in constant comparison - we will also attract that. If we are in constant judgement - we will also attract that.... if we are in constant critique mode - we will also attract that. Not only will we attract what we do to others - but... we will only see the flaws we are looking for - and we will stop seeing the beauty and the uniqueness that is so special in each person we encounter - and in ourselves. How do we judge others and ourselves? What is the standard we are using? Is this coming from the heart - or is it coming from indoctrinated standards from the media and various religions? Are these true standards that are heart felt , or are they outer programming designed to make us feel less than, and to cause division and suffering? I feel it’s important to know what does and does not work for me... but - if something is not my cup of tea - that does not mean I am entitled to bring someone else down because it is their cup of tea. Likewise - ifs someone else does not agree with how I do things - that is ok... and it does not mean I am doing something wrong… just doing it differently. Of course - if I am causing harm to that person - that is different.... but if there is no real harm (other than potential ego harm) - then each of us is entitled to do things and feel the way we feel. There is a wonderful saying that says - "What others think of me is none of my business” ... online it mentioned this being attributed to Wayne Dyer... but am sure it has been said in many other places. This is so true - as if I spend all my time worrying about what you or anyone else thinks of me - then I am living to please others... what a waste of time. Likewise though - what I think of others also is none of their business... and I need to get my head right out of others and into me. I cannot create my life if I have my nose stuck in your business... nor if I am trying to run my business (my life) - from your point of view!! So let’s start to mind our own business... focus on our own business from our own point of view. Here is a choice to be made - which point of view? From my inner critic, or from my heart and soul? If I focus on the inner critic - then I just keep on the same old hamster wheel of not being good enough etc. and of pleasing others and fear... and that gets us nowhere... well - its goes to a miserable place... and for me - that is nowhere. If I choose to focus from my heart - then I can really get somewhere - I can get to what makes my heart and soul sing. Once I start looking into my own life from here - then when I look at others - I will be looking from a more open hearted and soulful place - which is far more accepting of others having the right to express themselves in whatever way works for them. This gives me the right to do the same... to be me expressing me. Now this does not mean I allow others who are expressing something that does not vibe with me, the right to walk all over me and to potentially hurt me... no - because I will be at a place that either puts a boundary in place and extends that boundary so that they keep their distance - or the way I am expressing will bring out more of the loving side in that person... or - they will express that other stuff away from me - where it is in harmony with others who are in a more appreciative space of them being who they currently want to be. You see - it’s not really wrong at all that they are being who they are...even if who they are being is not something I like... who is right here?? Who is to say that the so -called awful thing they are engaged in does not serve others in a very deep and meaningful way that brings about great and wonderful changes to all involved? In this case - what is wrong?? Rather - better to look at it in a way that asks... does it serve me at my higher levels to be here right now? If not - move away... and allow those who need to engage in whatever way to do so in their own way.... and move away - it’s not a story you need to be part of. If the answer is yes - then in what way? Sometimes we do need to be in a place that does not feel so good - because of the service we or they have to offer... accept that - do what you need to do and move onwards. Sometimes - in fact - often for me... the ones who do something that looks so bad... are the ones who are giving me my greatest life lessons. Without those people doing what they were doing - or saying what they said... I know I would not be where I am today.... so, were they wrong?? Or... where they in deep service to me? What about people engaged in behaviours that I deem to be inappropriate? Well, firstly, “I “deem this - so it’s my judgement of what works for me. It means that what they are engaged in is wrong for me - but it may well be right for them... and it may not look right... but... again - who knows where this will lead them or others?? If I need to do something about this - because they may be acting under the influence of a substance - or they may be underage and under the influence of an older person who may not have their best interest in mind - then yes - I need to take appropriate action... and then again... ultimately - it will be a win win for all... but... if this behaviour of theirs does me no real harm - and does no real harm to others who are not in a situation to defend themselves... then... its best I live by example and not by pointing the finger - as most people do not respond well to being criticised or judged from an ego point of view. So this is not the easiest topic - I know - because there are many areas that seriously harm another - and no - that is not good... and that is common sense. But what I am talking about here is people’s right to just be themselves expressing themselves... and we judge them for wearing funny clothes, or weird hair... or their taste in music or food etc... this is harmless stuff. Why do we care?? So what if someone wants to walk around in green hair with feathers sticking out of their nose… that is their right... and if it works for them - yay!!! Good for them... I admire them for their courage to do so... their ability to walk tall in the face of so called normality - they are teaching us such a great lesson... Let’s rather look at them and smile and just think or say - good for you! Its ok for them to do that - they have no impact on us other than to allow us to have a smile. So what if someone loves punk music... good for you - they are keeping someone else in business and that is great... I can also choose to put in my earphones and listen to what I like. So what is someone loves Kung Fu movies - again - they are supporting others in their right to be who they are - just like I do in watching soppy romance! I believe there is a place for each of us to be ourselves in this wonderful planet.... why not celebrate that - why not allow ourselves to be the bright and beautiful odd ball unique characters we are...let’s learn from nature... some things our there are seriously odd - and yet - each oddness about them is there by divine order and really serves something greater.... so perhaps its the same with us?? Let's learn to embrace our uniqueness and allow others the same right... our uniqueness of mind, of dress, of taste, of friends.... Let's look for the common ground and celebrate that too... as that is our place of union with those others.... and if there is no common ground - then let’s be grateful that the planet is as big as it is and there is space for each of us to exits as we need to without having to stop another living the way they want to... just like the lion lives on land and the whale lives in the deep ocean and they never meet or have much to do with each other. let’s learn to mind our own business – own our own thought - and focus on our own lives... build ourselves up... and to leave others to do their thing... and if its gets in our way - to negotiate space so we can co exit on this plane without having to cause more chaos. Yes - this may well mean that we choose to have some serious distance with some people -and that is ok too... remember the lions and the whales!! Much love Arleen |
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