So you wake up and you are putting one foot in front of the other - and you have your head down and you are focused and getting on with it.... and then...whammo... out of the blue comes this thing that just knocks the wind right out of your sails!!! Where did that come from? In times like this I always feel that its just so unfair.... here I am working hard on getting things right and on holding my vision and getting by... and whammo... really?? Ever heard of timing mate?? Nope - Guess not!!
Well - in fact - the timing is always right in these cases. But - that does not stop me wanting to yell out at the world and call it all sorts of names!!!
The first issue here is that my head was down - not up!
The second issue is that I was focused on just getting by - and so that is what was happening - I was just getting by... no thriving - no excitement - just surviving... and its at times like that when the wind does get knocked out.
Getting by is not a strong position - its a desperate one. It is not centered, and the focus is on basic survival... not expansion.
Oh - so easy to say these things when I am in a better position - but - how on earth do I get from that irritating annoying struggling place into a stronger more focused one?
We have to get our wind back into our sails!!!
Firstly... when knocked down - just stay there for a few minutes and breathe and let yourself recover. Way too often I have found myself wanting to jump right up and carry on battling... but - I am not in a war zone and actually - I do have the time to take a few minutes out to stop and just be there for a while. I do have the time to just be quiet and assess what is going on before reacting... a reaction is not taking good considered action - its not a good response - its a knee jerk reaction that is coming from a place of fear - not from a place on solidity and strength. I never make my best decisions or take my best actions from that place. So stay there... stay down for a while and just be there to let your sense realign. Get your bearing back...
I know I am in reaction because I can feel my heart rate increase and my breathing change and my whole body just pulls inward and gets tight. In this place I am small and fearful. I need to reconnect to my power - to my energy flow of life... to my soul.
So when you find yourself in this place - stop... give yourself some time to regroup....to center... do not make any important decisions here - put everyone and everything off for a while... If you are at work - go to the toilet... generally you can catch your breath there and regroup...this buys you some time.
Once alone... just breathe.... drop into that place deep inside yourself... and just breathe....and let go....and just be there....
Just take the time to be with you.... with the one who is feeling knocked....
Feel into the solidity of the earth beneath you..... and if you can turn your face to a light source - do so - if not - imagine it.... tune to the light... and let it connect into you....breathe in the light - deep into your body and let out some huge out breaths... blowing out the stress and frustration. Try not think - just be here - just filling up with the light... feeling the solidity of the earth... and letting out the stress....
There is a panicked part that will want to have it all sorted out now - immediately... so I have to talk that part into a calmer space..."its OK.. its OK... I am OK... its all going to be OK... things can all just wait a little longer... I can give myself this time and space right now - to just be... and regroup... and the decisions can wait for a while... the earth is still turning...I am still breathing... its OK".
This just gives me time... time to calm own - time to recenter... time to re energize and to take myself out of fight or flight.... into a more creative space where solutions and better information can reach me - so that I make better responses - rather than panicked reactions.
From this space.. of connecting to the earth and the light... I just start to look around me for good things... colours... pictures.... flowers... anything... as the more I see beautiful things or even just remember them - the better my energy levels will become...
The more my energy levels improve - the more I can become calmer - and then - the highest aspect of me has access to my brain...and can think more clearly... you cannot think when you are panicked!!
From here - I can see if I do need to take any immediate action... or if it can all wait for a while...often...it can actually wait. From here I can decide where my attention really needs to be - what needs my focus - and what is just panic....
How can I serve my soul, myself best? Yes.. I do have to put myself in the picture and ask that question - as at the end of the day - no matter what we do or say - it really is about ourselves.
Yes - I serve many others - but not if I take panicked action.... and not if I stress myself to the point of total inaction and end up wrung up and miserable.
In this space - I can now reach inside of me and find my own inner light - my own inner strength and just breathe into it... feel it growing... and growing until it fills me completely... using my imagination. Remember this is all done using the reptilian part of the brain - and this part of the brain takes everything as real - so the more I can imagine something - the better - my actual physical body will respond to this and my energy levels will change. I imagine this light inside me growing and filling every cell of my body - and I feel my posture change... and strength returning...
From here - I imagine this light of my strength surrounding me as well - so that I am int he center of this bubble....and it becomes like a shield of protection... holding me... with the strength of the earth growing up my spine - feeling that straitening and connecting to the sun... to the cosmos...
It does not matter what you imagine so long as it gives you protection and strength...and a feeling of calm and safety... once you have this in place... your brain can re- engage from a much better and far more creative place... as you will find the correct response you need to make - in clarity - and not a reaction from fear.
No - its not always easy.... it can feel like climbing a huge mountain bare foot and bleeding... but... if we stop - and allow ourselves the time to just breathe and let go.... and connect back to ourselves, and the sun, and the earth... we can get through it - step by step...because the wind will then come back into our sails....and we will fly again!