Are you one of those people who others walk past and seem to ignore?
Are you finding that you listen to others a lot - but they don't seem to listen to you and what you have to say?
Are you feeling less important to others than they feel to you??
Then its time to make yourself important to you!!!
You cannot attract attention from others and support from others that well - without making yourself important to you. You have to stop and realise just how important you are. You have to put yourself in the center of your own picture of life.
Until you feel that you count... and that you yourself have value - you will only draw to you others who reflect your lack of value back to you - as everyone and everything out there is a reflection back to us of how we feel about ourselves.
The world is like a mirror... we get what we put out. We see reflected back to ourselves - how we feel about ourselves. If we treat ourselves badly and are harsh towards ourselves - then the world will reflect these things back to us. If we are feeling fear - the world will reflect all the reasons to feel fear right back at us from every direction. If we hate ourselves - the world will reflect all the hatred we feel right back at ourselves.
We see and experience life through the filters of our feelings... our deepest feelings.. even if we are not conscious about these feelings - we can see reflected back at us.... we will be able to see our inner workings through how we experience the world.
So its time to be more kind towards ourselves and to find what there is that is special about us. This is the beginnings of real self love and appreciation. The more you can be gentle towards you - the more the world is gentle back to you. The more you love yourself - the more love you will be able to see and experience.... and of course - the more you appreciate yourself - the more you will attract appreciation.
However... we have to leave it up to those who are capable of giving us these things back... to be the ones who do it. You cannot ask a dog to fly in the sky...its a beautiful dog... wonderful in all its glory - and can catch and fetch a ball in a way a bird cannot. So don't expect what you are looking for to come from someone who is not yet capable of that expression. We have attracted these people into our lives precisely because they do not have that within them - or... we are not seeing it... and so have been unable to receive it. Either way - we attracted these experiences to show us where our inner minds have been.
So once we change our thoughts towards ourselves - and our actions towards ourselves - the world around us will change... although it make take a bit of time to do that... step by step...but it will change.
This may mean that you find yourself relocating and then living or working in a different environment. It could also mean that the people in your life change - some will no longer fit with you current vibration and so they will move away - and that is ok. They are making space for someone else who is now a match for where you are... bless them and let them go.... and allow yourself excitement about who next is coming in...someone who can now love and appreciate you the way you are now doing towards yourself.
Sometimes people need to move away because they are unable to receive what we are now willing to give... as we can only receive what we ourselves are willing to give... its just how it works.
So - how to make yourself more important in your life... well - stop looking for outside affirmation of who and what you are..... you have to start telling yourself the good things about yourself.. you have to start looking for your own good qualities and working on them and affirming them yourself.
Look into the mirror daily and keep on looking until you can find something about yourself that you like.
Sometimes you have to fake it for a while first...and that is ok - you are building new neurological pathways - it takes a bit of time. It took time for you to program yourself into a negative space about yourself - so be prepared to give yourself a bit of time to change that.
Ask yourself what you need to change things today... make a list of things you want to change.. and then find something on the list each day that you can take a step towards... and allow yourself the time to do this step by step. Life is a journey after all... so give yourself permission to do it step by step and to enjoy the process - celebrating each little step as you take it... as we do a small child that is learning how to walk - step by step.
Rewards yourself as you go along... when you take a step - congratulate yourself and rewards yourself in some way - be that big or small. It is the inner you - the inner child - you are working with... so be aware of this and as with all children - some encouragement and gentleness goes a long long way.
Make a list of what you want to experience from others... kindness , love, appreciation etc... and then these are the very things you have to extend towards yourself! Be kind to yourself... in your words, your thoughts and actions. Be loving towards yourself - as you would to another.... and appreciate all those things that are good about you... and there are a lot of them when you really think about it.
So - there will be change.... and charge... is a good thing. So open your arms wide each day and feel the energy of the change coming to you - feel the excitement of all that you deserve now coming towards you - because you deserve it... because its your birthright.