There is so much talk about unconditional love - and love being the way... that is all very well - but how on earth do we apply that to our daily lives???
How do we learn to love that person who is behaving like an out and out creep? How to we learn to love the brat who is having a full out temper tantrum at the age of 35? How do we love the selfish ### who is behaving like a prima donna??
This can all feel so challenging?
What about people who are supposed to be high soul connections etc?? How do we love them if they are behaving like a sergeant magor and criticizing our every move?
When I am faced with these situations - there is a part of me that just wants to say - no way - its all to hard - love be damned!!
Welcome to humanity!!!
Life here is not about perfection...or rather - its about loving the imperfection we are.
Love starts at home - with me.
I have to learn to love myself in all my perfect imperfection first. When I can love and accept myself in all my phases - then ...I can attract the love and acceptance of others, if they are able to express it... or rather - attract people into my life who can.
But - what about those who are not there yet? I know I am still not there yet?
If I love and accept myself - their opinion of me does not matter - as I am then able to separate the egoistic human being who is struggling with all this love stuff and this messy place called Earth(Just like I am)- with the spiritual aspect of that person - who is perfect.. who is love and light - but just not perhaps expressing it right now. There is a wonderful phrase - and I forget who it comes from - but it goes like this "What others think of me is none of my business".
Get out of other people's heads - its like a crazy dump heap in there sometimes... there are some great places and there are also some toxic wastelands.. yikes.. get out of there!!! Just stop and think for a moment - what is it like in your own head??
Mine is like a crazy theme park - there are wild rides and beautiful parks, and swamps and electrical storms... there is no way I want someone else running around in there.. its enough just being in there myself... so show some respect and get out of other people's heads - that is a private place!
We are not on this planet to please others... its impossible anyway... as you never know which one you are trying to please... the ego.. their soul?? The soul is always pleased with you - it loves you - as you are part of it and are one... so this unconditional love things - its a spiritual thing... we aim for it where we can - but please know - the realm of the spiritual world is where there are no conditions.
Here on earth - we have messy love, and crazy love, and wild love, and yukky love, and muddy love, and sunny love... and all other possible loves that you can imagine - as here we express and explore and learn.
In the spiritual world - we know we are all one and we feel it and we see it... we are without the ego stuff there... and that is where pure unconditional love exists in all its beauty.
This does not mean we cannot glimpse it or experience it here - we do - when we remember who we are - and when the other remembers who they are... wow - sometimes we even get to remember this together and really see the soul in each other - and then - we really feel that beautiful connection of unconditional love. But - we both have to be in the right frame of mind and connected to spirit to get there and experience this at the same time. So yes - its absolutely possible...but often - just not all the time.
But how to accept another in their egoistic selves - and what about accepting ourselves when we are too - and allowing the love to flow - while on delightfully messy earth???
Well - there are saints and ascended masters walking around and they have no problem with this.
Personally though - I am not there yet - I am still having a ball in being this human thing doing and living human experiences on earth - and I am enjoying it too. I have all the time in the world to get to pure ascendancy - so until I do - I am not going to put pressure on myself and expect myself to be where I am not...
So - let's look at anatomy to get the answer.....
We have these lovely things called chakras - and they connect to the endocrine glands of the physical body as the spiritual psychical interface. The heart chakra - the one that is all about love - is connected to the thymus gland. The thymus glad is the one that governs the immune system... the immune system is all about protection. So - this tells me that to really love on this lovely messy delightful place called Earth - we need to feel safe. I cannot love when I feel threatened. I immediately then hop into my base chakra of adrenal glands which is all about fight or flight... so safety is required.
Safety talks to me about boundaries and common sense. If I really want to love a lion - I must respect it for being a lion (or be an ascended master - which I am currently not). I need to allow the animal to be what it is and allow for its natural instinctive behavior... its a lion and hence I could be potential dinner - so to really enjoy the lion and love it - I need to keep as safe distance from it while it is being lion.
So the same with humans that have a lion ego expression... for example.
Love and respect them for who they are knowing that they are currently expressing a predator existence and hence will be looking for victims - so some distance - or boundaries - will be required.
Using images of animals helps me - and yes - this will be my projection - as they are just being themselves... and I am in my stuff too. But - if I am not feeling that safe around them then I need to create some distance until I do.
Personally - in my home - I prefer to live without drugs, alcohol or smoking. Technically speaking - there is nothing wrong with these things - but I just prefer to live in a space without them - so this becomes a boundary for me. Its not wrong that others like to have these things in their lives...and so - in their space its perfectly ok for them to be experiencing these things. It will be wrong for them if they feel it is wrong - and right for them if they feel it is right. Its their world and we each create our own reality in it. What someone else puts in their mind or body is their business. Yeah - easier said than done - but really - this is what it is about... and if we apply boundaries and protection... between their world experience and ours - then we all feel much better about it.
So - in theory - we learn to love and respect each other as spiritual beings having an earthly experience... so I can reach out and connect to the soul of this person in a drug world (for example)... and love them there, and send love and connect there... as its a safe place to do so.... while I keep my distance and boundaries in place here on earth. They can live in their bubble and I can live in mine. If I go to their home bubble - then I have to accept that these things that I may not want to experience will be present... and if they comes to my bubble then I can request that these things are not to be brought in. If we cannot tolerate these "rules or terms of physical engagement" with each other - then it is best that we have space from each other - and love from afar. This is ok. This is mutual respect and giving each other the right to be who and what we are in this world - knowing that right now - in this existence - we are just not that compatible with the vibration that each of us is currently expressing - and that is ok.
Think about it for a moment... penguins do not live in the north and polar bears do not live in the south. Lions do not live in the south pole... and polar bears do not live in a tropical area. Nothing wrong with that is there? We each have our time and our place.. lets find harmony with that and allow for us to each exist in our own time and space... and allow that we do not have to have it all perfect right now - we are learning and growing and expressing different experiences - and that is ok.
So reach out and love in the spiritual realm as unconditionally as you can... while honouring yourself as a human expression of divine love and light in a particular frequency that is not always in harmony with everything else on earth realm. Love the spirit in the other - love the soul in each other - and give each other space to be who and what you each are in the earthly realm. Its a wonderful continual work in progress - and where we are right now - is just fine.