Becoming more empowered in life - means fine tuning your focus.
Ever heard the phrase "you get more of what you focus on"?
What does it really mean? Is there any validity to this??
Think about it....
If you are driving - and you are focused on the road - you stay on that road.... if you let your attention wander - your car starts to veer off and you could end up on the verge or worse...
Well.. the same goes for your mind and your life!
If you are focused on achieving a goal - you will achieve that goal - one way or another - because all your attention is on that, and so you will see the opportunities as they arise. You are looking for them!
If you are focused on bad things happening - you will hear all the bad stories , read all the bad stories, see all the bad events - both in your own life and in the lives of others. This happens because this is where your attention is - and where attention goes - energy flows!!
You can get very enthusiastic about this and prove the theory to yourself!! "It happens - I know it does because I see it/experience it - and I can prove it in the newspapers!!!" Yes - of course you can... because you are out to prove this for yourself - so you are looking for it! This point of focus becomes an attraction force... like a magnet - due to our attention or focus - we will hunt down everything we can to prove our theories or ideas to ourselves (Consciously or subconsciously)!! We love to be "right"!!!! Its a delightful ego activity!!
Our schooling and so - called education is all about proving things right or wrong - this is all embedded in our society.
So - we can use this same procedure to turn things in the other direction.
When we are "in love" - we do everything we can to see how wonderful the other is and to prove that to the world. We are focusing on all their good attributes - we hunt them down and show them to everyone and anyone whose attention we can get... "see how wonderful they are!!"... and we list all thing things we have found to prove why we should be "in love" with them. Its great!!
It really is great - because that person really does have all those wonderful qualities...and we have made a decision - conscious or not - to look for them and really see and focus on those attributes............
Until they put one foot wrong... and we stop focusing on their glory..... and our attention wavers......and suddenly... oops.... bastards.... they did something (actually something they always do - but we have just not seen it before)... we catch them in a moment of doing something that we never noticed before... and bang... crash... that's it! Reality check!!! The bastards are human! They have faults... they fart, they burp, they mess from time to time, they wake up one day and they have a droopy left eye, they put themselves before me, they were snappy and harsh and rude in that moment.
Now - its condemnation time!!
Now - as we are on alert - we will find all the faults - we are on the hunt for them - and we feel that huge disappointment as Mr or Mrs Perfection are revealed to be flawed!
Yes - we all know this story well - it applies to beloveds, to friends, to colleagues, to bosses, to jobs, to locations, to houses etc etc etc.... to life!
If we believe life is hard... we will be on the hunt to find all the hard things in life and life will then prove our theory of just how hard it is! The hardness of life becomes our focus, and so that is all we see and experience....because we are actually looking for it.
If we believe we are lucky - we will win things all the time, find things, be given things... and it will just continue to prove just how lucky we are. We tell others how lucky we are - and then they begin to watch our luck come rolling in and they all talk about how lucky we are too.
Its wonderful - we can gather the whole worlds attention by guiding them on what to look for - on what to focus on ... look here... this is beauty... look for this..... look here - this person is a bastard... oops... no don't look now - they are being nice - rather look over there.. look over there... ok - they are being a bastard again - look back at them.
We do the same with presidential candidates - hahaha... have you not seen how we have been directed in our viewpoints by media etc....??
What if we can choose our focus??
What if we can decide what we want to look for?
If focus work in this way - where we get magnetically drawn to get what we are looking for - perhaps we need to decide in advance what it is we want to focus on... but from the point of view - not of proving a theory - but of consciously attracting what is good for us - of what will make us happy??
What will happen if I open my eyes to all of what someone is - rather than just their one side or their other side?
Life is full of good and bad... well - its a judgement of what we think is good and bad - but there is it - there is a duality of sorts...depending on the viewpoint of the observer.
What do you want to focus on?
What do you thereby want to attract more of into your life?
Just ask yourself these questions for now... and really think about it. Then get into your imagination and imagine attracting things things into your life....and watch....
In the mean time... just pick something simple- like... pink cars, or number plates that have the letters LA , or people wearing green shoes....and watch... focus on this and watch.... and see how many of those things suddenly start appearing in your life.... and if you can attract that....then why not go for something else that better serves you?
Now some people may well be nasty sods....however... if you start to think about lovely kind people... chances are the nasty sod will move to another place where they can happily be who or what they are and prove someone's theory about the world being full of nasty sods..... while you start to move towards the world full of kindness.